Self Worth for Men Dubai
Self Stress and Change
Our modern world changes so rapidly that many of us feel in a permanent state of stress and anxiety leaving little room for self-reflection. Men traditionally are not socialized to focus on their feelings or to express their full range of emotions. When men limit their emotional expression it doesn’t mean they don’t feel emotions – what it means is they are dismissing their feelings, minimizing them, suppressing, avoiding and not acknowledging them.
Instead of expressing their feelings, men sometimes channel their emotions in ways not always useful or helpful to them or to others. When men continually mute or divert their emotional expression, self-esteem can suffer and self worth may diminish. Some of the more serious consequences of not expressing emotions appropriately can lead to depression, anxiety, addiction, and aggressive and abusive behavior. Counselling is a useful way to deal with these issues.
For men working in the gulf region, the pace of life is often so frantic there is little time for relationships or self-care. Families suffer when partners and fathers are travelling all the time or working such long hours, family or couple time is seriously limited. Relationships come under threat under these circumstances eroding self-esteem, as men begin to doubt their ability to maintain balance in their lives.
When lifestyle imbalance effects families and couples begin to have problems, they often seek help through counselling to help them manage their problems.
Self Esteem and Self Worth
High self-esteem is usually experienced through professional and personal achievement. Having a successful career or relationship or reaching personal goals through artistic or physical pursuits are good examples. Self-esteem is often firmly fixed in the areas of achievement.
For others it can come from physical appearance so for this type of person the way they look and appear to others is important. This type of person’s lifestyle and how it reflects on them is another way their self esteem is elevated, so driving a fancy car, having a lifestyle that reflects affluence are all ways to achieve this.
Self esteem acquired through personal achievement or acquisitions can often be transient so it’s wise to have a balanced view these things. If life circumstances suddenly change and you have no balance self esteem can be dramatically impacted.
Without having a solid sense of self and self worth you may not be able to stay grounded if life circumstances suddenly work against you. The question to ask yourself is, If I lost everything I value tomorrow could I still maintain my self worth and at the deepest level of my being would I still believe I’m ok?
To have self worth is to have a deep and loving acceptance of who you are at the very deepest level of your being.
In her one day workshop, Self Worth for Men, Life Works’s Susie Carr facilitates conversations between men about their self worth in a relaxed atmosphere. Group numbers are limited to provide a safe and confidential setting.